Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Cyber-Stalking.... Needs To Stop!

Stalking and cyberstalking/cyber-bullying is all the same.  If someone is relentlessly searching out information about you in an attempt to cause distress, malice, false accusations, disregards warnings to stop, and has no legitimate purpose for what they are doing, it is called stalking.  It's not called "curiosity," "sneaky," "interested," or any other "polite" word you want to put on it.  Stalking is a form of mental abuse in which the perpetrator repeatedly, unwantedly, and disruptively breaks into the life-world of the victim.  Cyberstalking is a criminal offense and can happen both in realtime and offline.

When I first became hurt many moons ago, I had no idea about any of this absurdity.  However the more confident I got and the more public I became, the more my accomplishments brought out those who wished ill-will upon me.  By now, I'm well-versed in all the tricks of the trade and do not hesitate to bring in the authorities when stuff like this happens.

And aren't I just so lucky that it's happening... again.

In September of 1998 of this tiny little town, a 21 year old female was brutally murdered.  Details are too horrible to describe in writing.  At the moment that murder happened, a mother lost her daughter.  A grandmother lost her granddaughter.  The town lost a friend.

Two years later, another 21 year old female became paralyzed in a double rollover car accident while leaving the same tiny town.  That person was me.

There is no connection between the two stories except for the fact that the mother of the other female has taken it upon herself to now cyberstalk me.  She is obsessed with where I'm at, what I'm doing, if I'm in town or not, etc, etc.  Mind you, I have never met this woman!  She has called me several times on my private cell phone number (that is not listed).  She has accused me of ridiculous absurdities and is constantly harassing me from a distance.  Yes, the local authorities are well aware of her actions and if it continues I will take further action.

In my opinion, she is extremely depressed, lonely, and sad.  I don't think she has or ever will accept the fact that her daughter is no longer alive and will not be coming back.  I can somewhat relate to what she is experiencing because my Dad has yet to accept the fact that I'm paralyzed and in a wheelchair.  But you know what?  After this many years, it's time to grow up and deal with it.  Face your issues, work through your problems, release your baggage, and move on with life.  Not that you will ever forget how life "used to be," but I once heard that if you have one foot in the past and one foot in the future, you're pissing all over the present.  Essentially, you'll always be stuck in the mud.

My inclining is that the mother of this girl is cross-associating me with what her daughter "could have been" at my age.  But because her daughter is no longer here on Earth, she has decided to make someone else (me) pay for the actions the murderer did.  None of what I mentioned about her daughter is not public, and my opinion is just that - my opinion.  I am not a doctor or psychologist, but I have been through enough grief, pain, and depression to know the signs.  I have also dealt with people like her enough times to know my boundaries and when to pull in higher assistance.  She has been warned to have no contact with me.  However what she must not be aware of is that there is technology that can track who is searching your website, looking up your name in search engines, viewing you through social media, etc.  In the state of California, the laws for cyberstalking is Cal. Civil Code 1708.7, Cal Penal Code 646.9.  The laws for cyberharrassment fall under Cal. Penal Code 422, 653.2, 653m.
Again I repeat, this is a criminal offense.  If a restraining order is put on you and you continue to stalk someone in any type of manner, even via social media, you will be arrested.

I share all of this with you so that you yourself can be aware of what might seem harmless at the moment may not be in the end.  You need to learn the signs and also see what lead some people to do what they do.  Learn your surroundings, know how to protect yourself, and do not be afraid of the police.  I appreciate those people who are supportive of me, my life, my accomplishments, my struggles, and my overall journey.  I look forward to receiving emails from people who I don't even know that say that I've helped them in some way or that they can relate to what I'm going through.  Yes, parts of my life are publicly out there.  I can only control technology to an extent.  But those of you who wish to tear people down need to know that you're ultimately tearing yourself down and will be punished accordingly.

Depression is horrible.  I totally understand it and have been through it.  But the first step to recovery is acknowledgment.  I had to acknowledge and accept the fact that I am in a wheelchair before I could move forward in life.  The same should be done in any situation where depression is looming overhead.  Yelling, drinking, drugs, physical abuse, verbal abuse, shopping, hoarding, eating, being codependent.... none of that is a way to solve issues or problems in your life.  The only way is to hit it straight on an call a spade a spade.  I highly recommend a support group called "Celebrate Recovery."  It is where I went (alongside one on one professional counseling) to work through my personal hurts and struggles.  "Celebrate Recovery" is located all around the world.

Do not wreck vengeance on an innocent person because of your own personal problems.  And remember, there is always someone/something watching YOU, even when you're hiding behind your own computer.

If you or someone you know is being harassed in any form, please contact your local authorities.  Even if you think it's something small, it is important to have documentation written down in a police file in case it escalates (God-forbid) into something bigger.  Be safe!  Protect yourself!

Help put a stop to bullying, cyber-bullying, stalking, and cyber-stalking.

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Blogger backdraft916 said...

Unfortunate fact for celebrities are those who bid do them harm. Praying for safety, strength, and continued courage along your journey.

June 2, 2014 at 7:24 PM  

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